We have been taught that Charity is the pure
love of Christ. “Charity suffereth long, and is
kind, [charity] envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own” (Moroni
7:45). President Hinckley stated,“that most problems in love and
marriage ultimately start with selfishness.” If our marriages are centered on Christ then why would
Charity in our marriage not be a top priority? Dr. Goddard said, "Charity
is the lens through which we see each other." How we see each other
and then treat one another is a choice that we have to make every day. We have to
choose to put our spouse and loved ones needs before our own. We need to learn
to be both sympathetic and empathetic to their thoughts and feelings. Goddard also
stated that, “In our own ways we all contribute to our own
unhappiness...charity does not flow automatically from having an extraordinary
spouse. It is primarily the result of the way we choose to see each
other." This is really important because when we truly love someone
we see them for who they are and are not concerned with trying to change them. Goddard
said, "When we love our partners the way they are, we don't care if they
change! That is the very thing that liberates them to change."
If our spouse wants to change then they will because of our love and acceptance
of them as they already are.
Charity
helps us through the tough times within our marriages. It helps us develop a
great sense of ourselves and our loved ones. Elder Jeffery R. Holland said, “Love is a fragile thing, and some
elements in life can try to break it. Much damage can be done if we are not in
tender hands, caring hands. To give ourselves totally to another person, as we
do in marriage, is the most trusting step we take in any human relationship. It
is a real act of faith—faith all of us must be willing to exercise. If we do it
right, we end up sharing everything—all our hopes, all our fears, all our
dreams, all our weaknesses, and all our joys—with another person…One of the
great purposes of true love is to help each other in these times. No one ought
to have to face such trials alone. We can endure almost anything if we have
someone at our side who truly loves us, who is easing the burden and lightening
the load.”
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