Divorce

Elder Dallin H. Oaks said, "A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection." Today many people are too quick to call it quits on their marriage when things get hard. The truth is marriage is hard and requires real work and effort from both partners. The root of divorce is often selfishness which can be avoided if we learn to set aside ourselves for something greater. Elder oaks also stated, "I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term heartache...Spouses who hope that divorce will resolve conflicts often find that it aggravates them, since the complexities that follow divorce—especially where there are children—generate new conflicts." Divorce will not solve your problmens it just creates new ones and really does have a huge impact on children who are torn between loving both parents and often pitted against the other parent.